Divorced couples significantly regret the impact that their split had on their children but tend not to seek help with their relationship, according to a survey recently highlighted in Family Law Week.
One-third of divorced or separated couples state that their biggest regret about splitting up was the impact it had on their children. However, the actual survey results show that the impact is not as bad as they thought - a quarter of respondents reported no perceived negative impact on their children whatsoever and most indicated that both their relationship with their child and their children's personal relationships had not been affected.
This is despite significant proportions of those with children reporting that it made their child's emotional state, school performance and general behaviour deteriorate. Only a very small number of respondents with children reported that they were more emotional and affectionate as a result.
Other biggest regrets over divorce were the financial consequences and the way the divorce was conducted. It seems our faith in relationships is not entirely doomed however, as overall a majority of respondents did not regret marrying or cohabitating, despite it ending in a divorce or separation.
The survey also identified that the vast majority of couples failed to get any counselling when the relationship was in difficulty, with large proportions having decided that it was "too late" or that they "never thought about it".
Apparently even fewer couples seek preventive help, with the vast majority not attending a marriage preparation or relationship education course during the early stages of their relationship. Among the reasons cited include the fact that they "never thought about it" and that they "didn't know there were such courses".
One-third of divorced or separated couples state that their biggest regret about splitting up was the impact it had on their children. However, the actual survey results show that the impact is not as bad as they thought - a quarter of respondents reported no perceived negative impact on their children whatsoever and most indicated that both their relationship with their child and their children's personal relationships had not been affected.
This is despite significant proportions of those with children reporting that it made their child's emotional state, school performance and general behaviour deteriorate. Only a very small number of respondents with children reported that they were more emotional and affectionate as a result.
Other biggest regrets over divorce were the financial consequences and the way the divorce was conducted. It seems our faith in relationships is not entirely doomed however, as overall a majority of respondents did not regret marrying or cohabitating, despite it ending in a divorce or separation.
The survey also identified that the vast majority of couples failed to get any counselling when the relationship was in difficulty, with large proportions having decided that it was "too late" or that they "never thought about it".
Apparently even fewer couples seek preventive help, with the vast majority not attending a marriage preparation or relationship education course during the early stages of their relationship. Among the reasons cited include the fact that they "never thought about it" and that they "didn't know there were such courses".
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